They may be your besties but that doesn’t mean they are perfect. We talked to dozens of brides about what things their beloved bridesmaids did that annoyed them and here are the very surprising answers.
“I love my bridesmaids. That’s why I asked them to stand with me on my wedding day but they didn’t like each other so much. They spent most of the 12 months we spent planning the wedding talking behind each others’ backs and fighting. They thought I didn’t know but I did and it really spoiled what should have been a fantastic bonding time.”
– Jo: London
“One of my bridesmaids kept putting pictures up on social media and using my wedding hashtag! It upset me so much that everything I was planning was online before I’d even made a decision about it. And I hated that anyone watching our hashtag would have seen all the little things before the wedding like the colour scheme and cake toppers. She even posted a picture of her trying on her bridesmaid dress.”
– Melanie: Cheltenham
“My sister and Maid of Honour took the whole “support the bride” thing a little too far. She basically ran the entire wedding planning process. It was my fault because she’s my big sister and I couldn’t stand up to her but I’m not joking when I say that I was lucky I even got to choose my own wedding dress!”
– Ruth-Anne: Wales
“No matter what I did, I couldn’t get hold of one of my bridesmaids. We had a WhatsApp group set up, emails, Google Docs and a private Facebook group yet there were times when I had to wait days and days and days to hear back for the simplest question. If you’re going to be a bridesmaid, please be contactable!”
– Jenny: Bath
“I tried to be accommodating about the bridesmaid dresses but one of my bridesmaids could not be pleased. We tried on about a dozen dresses and she flat out refused every single one of them because of something tiny that nobody else would notice like she didn’t like the shape and colour on the zipper on one of the dresses (it was hidden) or she thought that the thickness of the ribbons on the dress straps didn’t flatter her shoulders. I seriously think she forgot that she was a bridesmaid and not the bride!”
– Anna: Manchester
“One of my bridesmaids was obsessed with losing weight for the wedding but the problem was that she didn’t only worry about her own weight. Every time she saw me eating something, she’d roll her eyes and say something about me not being able to fit into my wedding dress. That wasn’t just annoying, it was downright rude.”
– Jewel: London
“My best friend is a man and he refused to be in my side of the bridal party. He said he would be too embarrassed to break with tradition. He said he was happy to be in my fiance’s part of the bridal party but that he just couldn’t be a ‘bridesmale. I do understand but it would have been nice if he was standing by my side while I said my vows. ”
– Tanya: Liverpool
“I paid for all my bridesmaids’ dresses, but one of my bridesmaids wouldn’t stop bargaining at every shop we went to. I know she was just trying to keep my costs down but it was really embarrassing and she kept doing it even though I told her not to worry about price and that I had it covered.”
– Jocelyn: Oxford
“I told my bridesmaids they could choose their own bridesmaid dresses. My only rule was that they wear a shade of green. One of my bridesmaids, an old friend from University, kept putting it off. I wasn’t worried because she works in fashion and has excellent taste but it was only on the weekend before my wedding that she finally showed me the dress she picked. It was blue. Bright blue. The thing is, she’s a bit funny with colours so she actually did think it was green or aqua or something. We had enough time to change it but it was a stress I just didn’t need less than a week before my wedding day.”
– Mary-Anne: Leeds
“One of my bridesmaids just didn’t listen. I’d have to repeat instructions so many times and she’s still get things wrong. I even printed out instructions for her and she lost them! She even reconfirmed my wedding day the week before the wedding. All she needed was a pen and a piece of paper but she just wouldn’t write anything down. I honestly thought she might not turn up on the wedding day because she may not know what day it was!”
– Maddy: Wales
